Random: SURVIVE BULLYING

Ms. Loraine Anne Marie Baguio
Ms. JEA 2013 and Educator
CERTIFIED BULLYING SURVIVOR 

Bullying has been a worst issue ever since and is very prone among teenagers and young adults. But these days, bullies are not just present in schools and work places; they are now starting to breed in social media sites. And unfortunately, they do not only target the nerds and weak teenagers and young adults, but they also target young professionals, politicians, teachers and to make it short, everyone in all shapes, sizes and ages.

                Many people took their lives because of this; bullying doesn’t only hurt someone physically but it also attacks the psychological part of the person. Self-esteem is very important, without this, you cannot function well and may cause mental retardation. Bullying is like HIV, it kills your self-esteem if you just let yourself be affected with what people are saying against you. So here are some tips on how to survive bullying.

1. ACCEPTANCE

Embracing personal flaws is now starting to hit the mainstream, most people no longer care on how they look and talk as long as they are happy. You should do the same thing too; never deny anything from you because that’s what makes you unique. People used to bully me for being so dark and it almost killed me to death. But I found out that if you will accept what is being teased; bullies will no longer care about how you react.

Now, when someone calls me nigger, African, charcoal or negro, I get flattered and even boast for it, I even tell everyone that I am a half Jamaican even if I’m not. After that, bullies no longer tease me, in fact I am the one who always initiate people to consider me as a half-jamaican or half African and they will really deny that. See? It went the other way.

2. BARBIE GIRL NO,NO

Barbie girls are made of plastic and as much as we wanna say that it is fantastic for us humans, no it is not. You do not have to pretend to be someone you are not, because if you try hard to be a better person, the bullies will tease you more. Just be yourself and then apply the first step, show them the real you. You have no idea how those bullies are hurt inside for they cannot express themselves too much just to keep up with the pretentions

3. RENOVATE

If there is a big chance that you can improve your image and if you think you really need to improve, then conduct a self-renovation. But remember, don’t improve to please the people, improve because it will make you happy and feel beautiful. And yes, just improve do not change.




(you may also read Ms. Loraine's photo blog http://www.sublimityartistry.blogspot.com/2014/06/le-papillon-butterflys-anecdote.html)

Random: TO BE AN IDEAL BOTTOM

With the article’s title, you might first think about being a bottom in a homosexual intercourse. But I have to apologize for this article is totally different from what you are expecting to read. And bet that you no longer need to know on how to be a good bottom, Come on! You just need a huge tight ass for that. And for your own knowledge, being a bottom is not just a sexual idea, there is a very good psychological explanation on how to be a good bottom in a homosexual relationship.

                If you are the bottom in your relationship, you are probably the one who is always dependent on your boyfriend. Bottom people are the passive ones in a relationship; they’re not usually the decision maker and most of the time they will just say yes on whatever their partners are saying. To make the cliché  short, they are the “girl” in an intimate partnership. So if you want to have a perfect love life, here are the things you need to remember on how to be a good bottom:

1.       SUPPORT

Most bottoms are YES PEOPLE, but hello! Do you think your partner needs a robot? hell no. Some people say that by saying “Yes” you are supporting an idea, big NO! this is just a weird misconception. Here’s the thing:

SUPPORT = EFFORT

Bet you have noticed the sameness of the equation, Yes I know that their last 3 letters are the same. Anyway, whenever you support your partner, do not just show it, let him feel it.

2.       INDEPENDENCE DAY

As said, most bottoms are very dependent to their partners and some tops can tolerate such idea. Sadly, there are times that tops need to rest too and depend on their partner especially during crisis such as which one should be used? Tampons or napkin? NO JUST KIDDIN! Going back, Yes sometimes top people complain about their bottom partners for being too dependent and mostly it is the reason for break-ups. As much as possible be independent in special circumstances and BE THE GAY A GUY NEEDS. Please just SOMETIMES! not all the time that your partner will feel that you’re suppressing him, Coz’ tops don’t like being suppressed.

3.       THE MUMMY

No! It has nothing to do about mummification. Just be the mommy, Yes we all know that tops should take care the bottoms but always remember that love is a give and take process. So if your guy is taking good care of you, you should also give back what has given. Tops gets more stress than bottoms so they need a very caring partner who sometimes acts as their mommy if their biological mommy or nanny is absent. A simple breakfast in bed and wiping the sweat with a towel will do. Yes, sounds so NANNY-ish, but just think that you love the person and therefore you need to do everything to keep the relationship strong.

4.       EL MACHO

And no, this has nothing to do with the body but the masculinity. Tops like bottoms because most bottoms are feminine. But here is the thing; tops don’t like too much femininity, they need someone whom they can really get along with – those who are a bit daring. Imagine, if your boyfriend goes rock climbing, and you can’t go with him because it is not your thing, Do you think your partner will enjoy the climbing? Probably if he’s with his friends or he’s with THE OTHER GUY,  And yes we don’t want that to happen. And c’mon, you’re not a girl! Even women play sports dominated by men! So please take some dose of testosterone!

5.       BUTTER

They say that most bottoms are very appreciative, very sweet and loves expressing good words to the point that they may sound so CHEEZY. And we all know that tops are the opposite, well most guys are not cheezy and tops are “Guy-likes”. This is very simple, minimize the cheeziness and instead just spread butter on the sandwich. For example:

instead of saying “you’re my super hero! i love you so much mwah mwah”

why not just say “I couldn’t have done it without you help” or “thank you, such a great help”

see? It will still make him feel good! He will just react naturally instead of giving you awkward facial expressions for saying cheezy statements which are MOST OF THE TIME disgusting.

                Being a bottom does not mean that you need to be the girl in the relationship. Remember that some heterosexual relationships are dominated by girls. And most of these girls are striving to fight people’s clichés about women. Love is a companionship, not a solo work, therefore, you also have to give a share as a loyal partner to keep things balanced.